St Edmund's Episcopal Church San Marino

STEDY, July 18, 2018

Genesis 27:1-19

27 When Isaac was old and his eyes were so weak that he could no longer see, he called for Esau his older son and said to him, “My son.”
“Here I am,” he answered.
2 Isaac said, “I am now an old man and don’t know the day of my death.3 Now then, get your equipment-your quiver and bow-and go out to the open country to hunt some wild game for me. 4 Prepare me the kind of tasty food I like and bring it to me to eat, so that I may give you my blessing before I die.”
5 Now Rebekah was listening as Isaac spoke to his son Esau. When Esau left for the open country to hunt game and bring it back, 6 Rebekah said to her son Jacob, “Look, I overheard your father say to your brother Esau, 7 ‘Bring me some game and prepare me some tasty food to eat, so that I may give you my blessing in the presence of the Lord before I die.’ 8 Now, my son, listen carefully and do what I tell you: 9 Go out to the flock and bring me two choice young goats, so I can prepare some tasty food for your father, just the way he likes it. 10 Then take it to your father to eat, so that he may give you his blessing before he dies.”
11 Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, “But my brother Esau is a hairy man while I have smooth skin. 12 What if my father touches me? I would appear to be tricking him and would bring down a curse on myself rather than a blessing.”
13 His mother said to him, “My son, let the curse fall on me. Just do what I say; go and get them for me.”
14 So he went and got them and brought them to his mother, and she prepared some tasty food, just the way his father liked it. 15 Then Rebekah took the best clothes of Esau her older son, which she had in the house, and put them on her younger son Jacob. 16 She also covered his hands and the smooth part of his neck with the goatskins. 17 Then she handed to her son Jacob the tasty food and the bread she had made.
18 He went to his father and said, “My father.”
“Yes, my son,” he answered. “Who is it?”
19 Jacob said to his father, “I am Esau your firstborn. I have done as you told me. Please sit up and eat some of my game, so that you may give me your blessing.”
“I love all my children the same” was the line we heard often from my mother growing up. Usually said while doing my sister’s homework, my older sister and I knew it was rubbish. My mom, a former biology teacher, would even try to argue with us from a scientific point of view claiming that it was physiologically impossible for a parent to love one child more than another. Again, my older sister and I never bought it and now, science has ironically proven that parents do have favorites.
Sociologist, Katherine Conger, asked 384 sibling pairs how they felt their parents treated them, if they sensed some sort of differential treatment, and whether they felt a blow or spike in their self-esteem from the perceived difference in treatment. Her team then interviewed the siblings’ parents for their perspective. What they found was that firstborns tended to feel preferred, perhaps because for a while there, they were (technically) only children. Once the younger siblings came along, their status as oldest child made them the first in the family to score in sports, lead the way academically, and generally confound their parents as to what to do. Younger kids, therefore, felt a little shortchanged by parental attention, reporting that they could sense the firstborn bias and that it affected their self-esteem – much more so than older kids. Further heartbreaking research has shown that children who feel as though they are the unfavored one struggle more with drugs, alcohol, depression and suicidal thoughts.
Another surprising detail of the study was that even if moms and dads didn’t admit to kids that they liked one child over another, 70 percent of fathers and 74 percent of mothers confessed to researchers that they definitely showered one child with preferential treatment over others. If you do a google search of parents having a favorite child, it’s horrible how many parents blatantly and self-righteously blog about which child is their favorite and why.
While parents may continue to deny any preference, Isaac and Rebekah certainly cannot as scripture itself records that Isaac loved Esau and Rebekah, Jacob. What’s so sad about this story is that this preference is so strong, at least for Rebekah, that she encourages her favorite to steal his father’s entire inheritance away from his brother. What he receives is loss of his family. Knowing his brother wants to kill him, Jacob flees to Paddan Aram and never sees his mother or father again. It is years before he is able to reconnect with Esau and their broken relationship plagued him until he was able to do so. People often joke about whom their parent favor but the reality is that no one wins. The effects preferential treatment has on not just the child but the entire family and community are much worse than people may even realize.

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Sunday, July 22
Team 4 Acolyting

Children’s Liturgy
10 am | Chapel

Sunday School
10:30 am | Sunday School Classrooms

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Sunday, July 29
Children’s Liturgy
10 am | Chapel

Sunday School
10:30 am | Sunday School Classrooms

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Sunday, August 5
Team 1 Acolyting

Children’s Liturgy
10 am | Chapel

Sunday School
10:30 am | Sunday School Classrooms

Youth Group
5 pm -7 pm

Enjoy the last week of summer at Bowlmor in Pasadena where we will play arcade games, bowl and grab dinner.
The full menu as well as pricing can be found on their website.

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Thursday, August 9
Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back

Come see John Williams’ iconic score performed
live-to screen on the Bowl’s big screens!
Hollywood Bowl
8 pm

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Sunday, August 12
Team 2 Acolyting

Children’s Liturgy
10 am | Chapel

Sunday School
10:30 am | Sunday School Classrooms

Blessing of the Backpacks

Please bring your backpack or any other school supplies
to be blessed before the school year begins.

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Sunday, August 19
Team 3 Acolyting

Children’s Liturgy
10 am | Chapel

Sunday School
10:30 am | Sunday School Classrooms

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Sunday, August 26
Team 4 Acolyting

Children’s Liturgy
10 am | Chapel

Sunday School
10:30 am | Sunday School Classrooms

Family Potluck and Welcome to Fr. Bill
5 – 7 pm
The Close

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Upcoming Events to Put on Your Calendar

Sunday, September 30
Mass on the Grass
The Angeloff’s

Sunday, October 7
Haunted Hayride
LA Zoo

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Sunday, October 28
Nightmare Before Christmas
El Capitan Theater

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Sunday, December 2
Wicked
The Pantages

Please feel free to contact Heather if you have questions.